The Breakfast Club Blog

Wednesday, November 22, 2006

Breakfast Club recap (11-18-06)

Dear Breakfast Club,

Thanks for a wonderful start to the holidays. It was nice to catch up with everyone, and try all of your favorite comfort foods.

Speaking of, there were numerous requests for recipes, so if you'd like to share yours, send it to me via the e-vite. I'll post it here on the blog!

Welcome once again to all of our first-timers. We enjoyed meeting you and hope you'll come again.

Our discussion centered around things we're thankful for. Health and family led the way, including the extended family of The Breakfast Club. My favorite story was from Jan. She shared that the first time she attended a breakfast, she was going through a difficult period and was surprised to find that she had landed among a group of such supportive women. Because Jan found comfort in this, she brought the same pie to the "Comfort Food" breakfast as she brought to her first breakfast.

Even as I recount this story, I'm tearing up, because you all have meant so much to me and to each other. Thank you for being part of The Breakfast Club — you are truly what I'm thankful for this year.

Kelli

Eye opener?

From the NY Times:

FASHION & STYLE | November 9, 2006
Cosmopolitan Moms
By STACY LU
Happy-hour play dates are here. Some stay-at-home mothers are drinking bloody marys at play groups and toting wine to parks and friends’ decks while their children frolic nearby.

Another good reason to join The Breakfast Club

From the NY Times:

OPINION | November 7, 2006
Op-Ed Contributor: Too Close for Comfort
By STEPHANIE COONTZ
We are placing too many burdens on the fragile institution of marriage, making social life poorer in the process.

Monday, November 06, 2006

Marie Antoinette, the review

Marie Antoinette was written and directed by Sofia Coppola and based on a book by Antonia Fraser. This is not a film about a historical figure; it's about a human being. That said, historical inaccuracies abound, but the movie seems intended to be a larger study in perspective. No one is all good or all bad, and Marie Antoinette cannot be judged solely on a single quote ("Let them eat cake."). Historians have, in fact, called into question whether she really said this. So, perhaps she does not totally deserve to be one of history's villains.

Sofia Coppola presents this premise by melding a period piece with modern elements. The costumes and setting are 1700s France, while the dialogue, dialects and soundtrack are all meant to help the audience stand in Marie Antoinette's shoes. In fact, the movie is from her viewpoint alone, which is an attempt to show how she developed the tunnel vision that baffles us in retrospect. It might be a bit overly sympathetic to a woman who let her people starve, but I guess the hope was to swing the pendulum back to the middle.

I walked away realizing how much our cultural background causes us to judge (or maybe misjudge) leaders of other countries. In this instance, you see a young girl who has known no other life than that of royalty, which is believed to be a God-ordained duty. You catch a glimpse of how easy it could be to be out of touch with the people you rule, when your mother sends you to another country to marry a stranger and forge an alliance between two countries the way our mothers would send us to clean our rooms.

I can see how we try to apply an American aesthetic to royals and always come up with a negative image of them. Our popular view of aristocrats is that they were originally immigrants who came to this country with a dream and the shirt on their backs. In essence, they came from "nothing" and built a fortune by capitalizing on the freedom of opportunity, and we expect them always to remember where they came from or suffer the public flogging of their image and reputation. Even their children, born into privilege, are expected to carry on a legacy of philanthropy or be reviled. I'm not sure that it worked that way for royals or their subjects in past centuries.

The movie certainly spends time making royalty seem less than glamorous, using the typical idea of a king or queen being trapped in a life he or she didn't choose. In Marie Antoinette's case, she actually suffers quite a few indignities in the name of tradition and pomp and circumstance. Though she obviously lived a life full of far more creature comforts than her subjects, you wonder if she was actually any happier or freer than they were. It begs the question: If you don't live in a democratic republic, is anyone really free?

At any rate, Marie Antoinette appears to live much of her life in a disconnect between ruling and living as a queen. Of course, she was 19 when she took the throne, and the film explores what it might look like if a true-to-life teenager — immature, oblivious to everyone else, self-obsessed, all giggling and clothes — was suddenly in charge of a country. It's kind of ridiculous. Instead of perceiving a real threat from revolutionaries, she thinks of public criticism like gossip that she will simply rise above. It's a childish view of the world, and that gets her into trouble.

Even near the end, when you would think that humanity or just plain common sense would prevail in dealing with the masses, it doesn't. Royalty is her religion, and she sees her decision as either to flee or face the mob, but never to recant her aristocratic views. To me, it offers a lot of food for thought as to what can happen in our individual lives when we turn a blind eye to our own problems and continually choose to believe something that's askew, yet stay committed to the idea that we are absolutely right.

But Marie Antoinette also gives you a portrait of a loving mother, which helps you to see her as a complete person. You almost feel that what she really wanted to be was a stay-at-home mom.

Overall, it makes you question whether she deserved her fate. Why not dethrone or exile her? While you wonder how many people suffered because of her infamous excesses, I don't think it's as simple as deciding she spent too much money. There was an entire system and way of life at fault that had been supported by the people until they ran out of bread. Did the royals abuse it? It would seem so, but where exactly do you draw the line in their minds? Needless to say, it always comes down to a matter of perspective. And, here, we get Marie Antoinette's.

Acting: Good, not great, though Kirsten Dunst seems perfect for the part
Directing: Good. Interesting techniques and approaches to storytelling. Slow in places.
Should you see it in the theater? Yes -- it heightens the drama.

More on jeans ...

From The Washington Post by way of your Dallas Morning News:

Humor: Dangerously hip

There's only one thing that matters when you're buying jeans ...

By JEANNE MARIE LASKAS

Friday, November 03, 2006

Running With Scissors, the review

Running with Scissors is based on a memoir by Augusten Burroughs, though it might as well have been designed as a screenplay. Its cast of wacky characters and off-the-wall events make it a natural fit in the era of independent films.

I haven't read the book, so I can't tell you if it's a good adaptation or not. Many reviewers have said not. But if you watch it without preconceived notions, it can be quite entertaining.

Another criticism many have made is that the movie jumps from funny and ridiculous to terribly serious without smooth segues. It's true, but this didn't bother me. In fact, I thought it added authenticity both to the characters and story. Real life is full of bumpy transitions, too.

What struck me most, however, was the acting. Annette Bening deserves every bit of Oscar buzz that she's generating. Everyone has probably met someone like her character, and you realize it because her performance rings so true.

That's not to say that the other actors didn't hold their own. The only weak link might have been Gwyneth Paltrow. But Joseph Fiennes was amazing — of course, have you ever seen a film where either he or Ralph weren't? Also, I thought Alec Baldwin was surprisingly good, even in a relatively small part. It reminded me a lot of the understated role that Bill Murray played in Lost in Translation.

As with almost all stories, there are universal moments that cut through the quirkiness of everything that's going on. And there is no shortage of laugh-out-loud moments. It's a good one to watch with a theater full of people.

The costumes, props and sets are also stand-outs, almost to the point of distraction. It's a visually stunning movie, as they say.

But be forewarned: The story is intense. At the end of the day, it is most definitely a drama, and there are some troubling scenes and bits of dialogue. Even though the main character is 13 throughout much of the movie, he lives in a very grown-up world.

Depending on how much you can identify with it, Running with Scissors will stick with you for several days. It's probably not for everyone, but I think it deserved better notices from the critics.

Oh, and one last note: Whether or not you buy the DVD, do buy the soundtrack.

I knew it!

More from your own Dallas Morning News:

Skinny jeans not a good fit
Sunday, October 29, 2006

Sometimes high fashion doesn't cut it with the masses.

The latest example is the skinny jean: a designer cut that's been wildly popular with upscale fashionistas the last three years.

The flirty shaped jeans are famous for their 10-inch leg openings (vs. 14-inch for traditional straight legs) that look great on Cameron Diaz.

Sales are flat at Wal-Mart and J.C. Penney.

"Skinny jeans just haven't worked for our customer," said Claire A.Watts, executive vice president over apparel at Wal-Mart Stores Inc. Ms. Watts was speaking to Wall Street analysts last week when she added, "We're already moving it through," which is retailspeak for lowering prices to move the inventory out.

Wal-Mart.com has its Metro 7 skinny jeans on sale for $16, discounted from $22.94. And don't expect them to be part of the holiday mix.

Likewise, J.C. Penney Co. chairman and chief executive Mike Ullman said shoppers haven't warmed up to the style.

"Skinny jeans weren't as big as we thought it would be," he said.

"It was a fixation of the fashion industry on themselves."

Penney has discounted its skinny jeans to $24.99, down from $36 and $40. You can find similar discounts on skinnies at Kohl's and Sears.

Maria Halkias

You can always go downtown

From your own Dallas Morning News:

Yuppies are now Ruppies
Sunday, October 29, 2006

A quiet cottage by the lake isn't everyone's idea of retirement. And folks who want to spend their golden years near art museums, concert halls and fine restaurants have a new handbook: Retire Downtown by Kyle Ezell.

Mr. Ezell says "Ruppies" -- that's short for "retired urban people" -- understand that the secret to staying young isn't plastic surgery, therapy or pills but living in the right place.

"Downtown is the new fountain of youth," he declares.

To help Ruppies search for the coolest, hippest places, he came up with 20 of America's best "retirement downtowns."

Texas, apparently, is a bit challenged on that score. The only Lone Star city to make Mr. Ezell's list is Austin, which he describes as having a "distinctively different downtown."

"Austin is the perfect place for Ruppies to express themselves with few restraints and without inhibition," he writes. "Not everyone is weird, of course, but they have at least thought about ways that they could be."

Though they didn't make the cut, two other Texas downtowns got favorable mentions in Mr. Ezell's book -- Fort Worth ("one of the most vibrant and interesting cities in Texas") and San Antonio ("its delicious River Walk is worth considering").

Bob Moos

THE TOP 20
In alphabetical order:
Asheville, N.C.
Atlanta
Austin
Charlotte, N.C.
Chattanooga, Tenn.
Chicago
Columbus, Ohio
Denver
Indianapolis
Los Angeles
Madison, Wis.
Memphis, Tenn.
Miami
Milwaukee, Wis.
Oklahoma City
Omaha, Neb.
Philadelphia
Providence, R.I.
San Francisco
Seattle

Oh, so that's it

From the NY Times:

BUSINESS / YOUR MONEY | October 29, 2006
What Do Women Want? Just Ask
By MICKEY MEECE
While women have always influenced decisions about big-ticket household purchases, their direct spending has expanded substantially in recent years.

I guess it could be worse

From the NY Times:

INTERNATIONAL / MIDDLE EAST | November 2, 2006
Beirut Journal: Where the Boys Are, at Least for Now, the Girls Pounce
By KATHERINE ZOEPF
Between Ramadan and Christmas, thousands of young men return to Lebanon from jobs abroad — and run smack into one of the world’s most aggressive cultures of female display.